| I’m the Father of an AIDS Orphan
By Tim Dearborn
“YOU’RE LETTING your teenage daughter go to
Uganda to work with children orphaned by AIDS?” This frequently
uttered exclamation carried with it an unspoken, “Are you crazy?”
AIDS — the
scourge of the 21st century — carries with its assault fear, judgment
of people’s morality and strong prejudices. Thus, many people questioned
our wisdom in allowing our daughter to serve in Uganda. In addition
to the health risks, would encountering a region where more than
200,000 children have lost both parents to AIDS inflict on her
a heavier emotional weight than her teenage shoulders should be
asked to carry?
Our daughter safely returned; however, she will
never be the same, and we’re grateful! The omnipresence of sorrow
was overwhelming. She entered countless homes in which the head
of household was under 14. We were concerned about the emotional
weight she would bear, but compare that to young teenagers living
as the sole providers for their
siblings — attending school by day, tending crops and younger brothers and sisters
Most elderly in Uganda have taken into their homes 10 or 12 little
children who do not have the gift of a 14-year-old “man” older brother to care
for them. Often unrelated, they live together in a common bond of kindness. Though
families are shattered by this disease, communities are strengthened by compassion.
Our daughter couldn’t help but reflect on the contrast with our own life in the
United States, where we are protected from such suffering. She, like many Seattle
Pacific University students who have worked with AIDS patients in South Africa
through the SPRINT program, feels Americans are impoverished by our lack of community
and by a collapse of kindness.
In our country, an HIV-positive child
has been considered too great a risk to be
allowed into a Sunday school class. Quite
a contrast to Uganda. People are seldom
even tested for HIV there. It’s a tragic assumption of life. While in Uganda,
our daughter had the unexpected opportunity to visit the child we sponsor through
World Vision. Annet’s father died from AIDS when she was 6 months old, her mother
when she was 2. She now lives with her grandmother, who cares for seven orphans,
the children of her sons, all of whom died of AIDS.
Because her mother was dying
when Annet was born, she was not breast-fed and experienced very poor nutrition.
Therefore, her physical growth and mental development are impaired. World Vision
has provided her with high-protein supplements
and supported her in school.
They’ve also provided the grandmother with
goats and seeds to enhance her income.
Annet’s eyes bear the mark of her sorrow,
yet the home in which she lives is flooded with light. Like most of the children
in her region, and millions of children in the world born to an HIV-infected
mother, she too is probably carrying the internal ticking time bomb of HIV. Yet
Annet is discovering signs of
God’s faithfulness that surpass the sorrow of her circumstances. She is encountering
the God who says to us, “I know the plans
that I have for you … plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a
future with hope” ( Jer. 29:11). True for us here in the United States. True
for people with AIDS. True for the AIDS orphans of the world.
Learning that our
daughter was from her sponsor’s
family, Annet said to her, “That means you’re
my sister.” Thinking for a moment, she then went
on to say, “That means your father is my father.”
Thanks to the work of the Ugandan
government, the church and non-governmental organizations such asWorld Vision,
efforts have had a positive impact in Uganda. It’s one of the few countries in
Africa that has actually experienced a decrease in the incidence of infection.
I ’m proud to be the father of an AIDS orphan.
Our Lord has said to us, “Let the little children come to me, and do not stop
them; for it is to such as these that
the kingdom of heaven belongs” (Matt. 19:14). May God grant to us the same spirit
as the disease-decimated and joy-enriched church of Uganda to extend the embrace
of the One who is the
heavenly Father of all AIDS orphans.
Tim Dearborn is dean of the chapel at Seattle Pacific University. This essay
was adapted from one Dearborn originally wrote for the November 17, 1997, edition
of Christianity Today.
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